I know it's a sin, but I don't care!!
Q. Hello. Well, i'm young and I am very very horny..haha..I am a virgin so I like to masturbate alot..It is not secret..I don't care..anyhow. Pornagraphy is a sin..I am Christian and have been raised that its a sin..and it even says so in the ...
A. 29 March 2008: Hey Elley, i wasn't going to comment on this subject but then i read some of the responses, casting unintelligible commentaries of The Bible. I'm not going to turn this into a matter of theology or what you should believe or not but the issue wi... (read in full...)
2008 is here and I want to start fresh... But I keep thinking about my ex. What can I do to forget about her?
Q. We entered the new year 2 1/2 hours ago. Any advice you can give me? I'm 21 years old, I was with a girl (also 21) for 4 years, she was my first love, first kiss and first everything else. We connected well, shared looooads of great times toge...
A. 2 January 2008: Hey Al,
First of all HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
i am somewhat in the same boat as you and it is not a nice feeling. All the feelings and questions you just mentioned I am going through. I also had the same plan, 2008 is a new year and i'm going to ent... (read in full...)
I sent him a photo of my friend instead of mine and recently he texted me to set up a meeting soon. I really like him, what can I do now?
Q. Hi can someone help me I meet a guy online and we seem to hit it off well. He asked to see my photo and I sent him one of my friend "I know I know" I should not have done that but I liked his attention, the problem is he thinks that I am from the ...
A. 2 January 2008: Hey,
first of all Happy New Year!
Your situation is one that begs the question " what is any good relationship based upon?" the answer to that question can be trust or honesty. You have not exhibited either one of these. In your want for hi... (read in full...)
I want to be able to get better at dating relationships, how would I get better?
Q. I've got this problem. It's not a sex/relationships type problem, more a social skills/confidence one. I'm a 21-year-old man from England, have a good social life and enjoy my work, but I have confidence issues. People say my social skills ar...
A. 2 January 2008: Hey A male,
Firstly, its good that you taking stock of yourself and that you want a relationship founded on truth and mutual respect- for the long run this is brilliant, but for right now you need to chill out.
What you need to be doing now... (read in full...)
I'm still madly deeply in love with my ex. How do I move on?
Q. how do i move on when im so madly deeply in love with my now x partner,i cry all the time,i cant eat,finding it impossible to sleep,cant even be bothered to feed my children,and i dont want to be with anybody else,he is my bestfriend and soulmate ...
A. 2 January 2008: Hey female,
Couple of things;
1. PERSPECTIVE- this is very important to have in and out of a relationship. If your relationship was based on real things and your being as a person is founded in your OWN self-esteem, rather than one of co-d... (read in full...)
I'm so insecure, how can I deal with it? I don't want to lose her
Q. I have a slightly odd problem. I love my gf very much and i'm pretty sure that she loves me back. But i feel very insecure in our relationship and i need her to tell me that she loves me quite often. I also interpret a lot of things she does as ...
A. 12 July 2007: Hey bud, been there and done that with terrible results so let me level with you. firstly,You have insecurities, probably deep seated from past events, and the fact that you acknowledge them is a cliched but GOOD first step. At least yo... (read in full...)
No self-confidence and I'm a virgin at 25. Where do I start?
Q. Hi, Got a good question. I am 25 and I am a virgin. A pure virgin. Never been kissed, Never had a girlfriend. I have a low self confidence since been bullied at school and I've just watch "The 40 Year Old Virgin". It was very uncomfor...
A. 23 June 2007: Hey. you've got a lot of wide ranging advice here so i don;t have much to add- if i do it is only synoptically. Firstly, i don't think people understood the movie "The 40 year old virgin" Directed and Written Judd Aptow. This movies essenc w... (read in full...)
How does one get over "unrequited love?"
Q. unrequited love.. how does one get over it? i've fallen hard for someone i could never have (different places in life/opposite sides of the planet). this feels so much worse than a breakup. there's just always this feeling of "what if" and i ...
A. 16 June 2007: Hey,
funny thing is i'm in the exact same position. I also felt like a bit of a doofus for having gone through it, so its nice to see i'm not alone in this.
Its not a nice feeling- and your right, that the "what if" is the thing that is su... (read in full...)
I find myself constantly having to take the leadership role and I am getting tired of it.
Q. My boyfriend and I are both 21, we have been dating for 2 1/2 years and we are starting to talk about marriage. My main concern is that he is not very masculine. He does not have any leadership traits, he is not chivalrous (he has bought me flowers ...
A. 15 June 2007: Hey,
"you don't want a maniac boyfriend"- this is interesting.
You realise there is an excess that you don;t want but you want him to be more ...the way you want him to be.
Do you think he wants you to be more intelligent, funnier, mo... (read in full...)
My daughter had oral sex with another boy when she (first went out with him)!!
Q. I'm a parent, I snooped on my daughter's messages. My daughter had oral sex with another boy when she (first went out with him)!! He goes to her school. My guess is also that she has done it several times before with another boy. I have had "the ...
A. 15 June 2007: hey,
i am proud to say i am not a parent- because that job sucks!
you want the best for them and at the same time you want them to learn their own lessons.
You didn;t say how old your daughter is, which really is an important factor to some... (read in full...)
Why would a woman feel the need to gush about what an amazing man I am rather than just tell me straight that she doesn't want me?
Q. Why would a woman feel the need to gush about what an amazing man I am rather than just tell me straight that she doesn't want me? Telling me that she would be happier with me but she can't leave her current relationship is what is really stopping ...
A. 12 June 2007: Hey,
i have been in this same situation,bro, and i understand , its a noggin' scratcher. However, after really stepping back from it and seeing it happen to other people i realised a pattern.
The "ego boost" as you called it is used NOT to "let... (read in full...)
I'm 30 years old and still a virgin, is this normal?
Q. I'm 30 years old but still a virgin. Is this normal? Ive never had a girlfriend. I'm not ugly just very shy. Its more out of circumstance than not been "lucky" ie i work weekdays and look after my gran on the weekend. Will i ever get...
A. 12 June 2007: hey,
well thats a comendable thing your doing, looking after an elederly relative. Caregivers have it tough as well you probably know. So the dilemma is that your a virgin or that your single?
you ask the question "will i get laid AND find so... (read in full...)
How do I really know that I made the right decision?
Q. Hi Everyone - your help is needed! I split up with my partner of 4 years over two months ago now. I had been feeling confused over my feelings for him for a good few months before finally ending things. I think I have changed over time and don't ...
A. 30 May 2007: Hey, this is not rare. You have grown, you maturer, stronger in yourself, wiser, a completely different person that you were 4 years ago. So what? we all evolve we all adapt to new things in our lives. And your not 'in love' with him a... (read in full...)
Do I have the right to be upset about her being so close to her work colleague?
Q. Ive dated a girl for 3 yrs. Ive caught her in lies. At functions or a few parties she used to ignore me and talk to others, that was in the beginning. My big question, she went on a college recruiting trip for a company, when she flew up to meet ...
A. 30 May 2007: Bubba, your girl told you she was going- she didn't want you getting the wrong end of the stick if you called the hotel and didn;t find her there. Then she tells you that she was in a bed and he was in a SEPERATE bed. So what? if this ... (read in full...)
Why would a guy say one thing then leave me waiting?
Q. They say men are from mars and women are from venus...how true!! ok so me and my ex have been in contact since we split up a few years ago hes been telling me over the weekend how much he still fancies me but when he arranged to meet me tonight in a ...
A. 30 May 2007: The guy is obviously playing games. Turn back on your phone and live your life. Don;t call him, don;t text him, leave him alone and be happy. If he texts you don;t reply. let him have the decency to call you on the phone or come and see... (read in full...)
Could it be that I am still a virgin at my age because of possibly low testosterone(male sex hormone)levels?
Q. NB: Please reply to THIS question; ignore the previous one- it was accidentally posted prematurely! I am a 27 year old male student, at University (a late starter), in the UK. My problem is that, at the age of 27 years, I have never had any se...
A. 30 May 2007: Gazz Gazz Gazz, mate well what what have we learnt from you submission? well, firstly, Gazz you know why your still a virgin. Its got nothing to do with low body chemical levels or confidence but more to do with not being entirely confident ... (read in full...)
I'm 18, virgin, and furious!
Q. Hi, I'm quite a pathetic case really. I'm 18 and still a virgin. Being a bloke its not something that i've admitted - I even spun my best mates off with bullshit stories about how i got layed. I hate myself for it. I don't understand why t...
A. 24 May 2007: hey
first off your 18 so i'm gonna tell you a secret now.
Be careful because your starting to sound like a plum.
this is basically what your saying.
"i'm 18 and i want to put my end away, preferably for training before i go to bangfest, i.e... (read in full...)
I'm too insecure to let him go!
Q. I have told my boyfriend i feel trapped...i cant alk to him, he bores me but i am too insercure to loose him! There is amn in my life i have known for 6 years and slept with 2 years ago once as a mistake! He is a great guy and always cheers me up ...
A. 24 May 2007: I disagree with DV1 Yes you should leave your current bf if you feel there is no future in it but NO you shouldn;t get with the other guy cause yes he's having you on..OBVIUOUSLY and Frank is right, grow up and stop being a puppet to others va... (read in full...)
How do I get over someone I am in love with when I know that he obviously doesn't feel the same?
Q. How do I get over someone I am in love with when I know that he obviously doesn't feel the same. We have a kid together but we have been broken up since before he was born. I've been in lo with him for all of my adult life (9 yrs.). I'm tired of ...
A. 14 May 2007: Hey Heart,
well this is a common misconception that we deserve happiness. Happiness is not something that comes with life-Its not something that is our right. Happiness is a privilige of realisation.
So in saying that the only advise that can ... (read in full...)
I've always been good to her, would she really leave me for her weed-smoking semi-criminal ex?
Q. i need help here. i've been with this girl on and off for about 10 months now. i love her so much but it always feels like she sends me mixed messages. we both go to college together and now were both at home for the summer. the problem is that ...
A. 14 May 2007: Sup a Male,
first things first, do you drink Pilsner?
because in the words of Tom Hanks your being a 'big fat pussy'.
As soon as you 'want' a woman your cruising for it to end. NEVER want her dude. You could be married for 30 years and if ... (read in full...)
I'm not getting the kind of love back that I want from him. Am I just settling?
Q. Am I being unfair or am I settling? I really can't decide. I feel that my fiance loves me they way I need to be loved, but not the way I WANT and crave to be loved. I know this has alot to do with the way my younger long-term x had sexualized me, ...
A. 27 April 2007: hey NJmomabear, I'm not a female, but am a guy so i'm going to rap with you about the MALE perspective. Everybody wants their cake and to eat it- thats what cake is for! with stability comes normality, with normality comes standard... (read in full...)
He's a nice guy and everything and treats me well but when I see successful, ambitious, attractive men on the TV and around, I wonder what it would be like to be with them.
Q. Am I wrong for feeling this way? I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we're ok. I am ambitious and have a great job, he has made a mess of his life and has a rubbish job and has no way out. He has no money either. He's a nice guy and ...
A. 27 April 2007: Hey, well first of all its no one else consideration but your own, but here's a few questions to ask yourself; - what is YOUR life purpose,apart from your work? - what do you look forward to, not tommorrow, but in old age? - what are... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I recently broke up and it's destroying me, I need her in my life!
Q. My girlfriend and I have recently broke up, and it's been affecting me greatly. I love her soo much and admire her as well, and it's destroying me that I don't have her anymore. I have recently felt guilty that I didn't do everything in this ...
A. 27 April 2007: Hey TLilly, dude thats rough. I know how it is when emotional love,admiration, friendship and sexual love intermingle- it can feel great but its usually something that we realise in retrospect, rather than in the moment. Firstly, there's no ... (read in full...)
We met online and saw each other, but now he decided to talk through the net again. What's going on?
Q. I met a man on the internet he came to see me and i went to see him I have 4 kids he as 1 then he said he just wanted to be friends. We where talking for 3 months before he decided we still talk to each other other on the computer what do i do keep ...
A. 22 April 2007: Hey!
The problem with internet introductions, and the formulation of relationships, is that you are learning about someone outside the realm of 'conventional' reality also the relationship is not in real time. However fast an instant message ... (read in full...)
How can I stop him slapping me for his fun ??
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for two weeks now and it was going realy well till he started slapping me on the face, he hit me once before when we used to date and i thought he had changed when i got back with him but i went round his and he just ...
A. 22 April 2007: Hey,
first of all this post is not about him.
This is about you and how you are judging your self worth.
Him hitting you is wrong and, as everyone else said, you should get out of the relationship, but after that i fear the esteem issue wil... (read in full...)
Neither of us want a serious relationship but he doesn't compliment me! What does he really want from me?
Q. hello!!! im 18 and im seeing this guy... neither of us want a serious relationship but he never tells me how he feels about me or even if he finds me attractive...we live together so things can get awkward but we've been ok, and its been going on...
A. 22 April 2007: Hey hey
well unfourtunately for you, there is no such thing as a 'casual' relationship for women. as a gender you are loving and gentle and the very heart of you wishes to be loved ( that is to be cared for and entrusted with anothers respect,... (read in full...)
Why am I dreaming this horrid dream for two months now? Any insights?
Q. this dream will not leave me alone im walking around a swimmingpool then this guy attaks me and i end up in the pool with him and start drowning him this goes on for a bit then in bashing his head on a lampost but he is just laffing at me then i get ...
A. 22 April 2007: A dreams meaning is subjective, it depends how you wish to percieve its elements.
what does water represent to you?
what does the man look like? are his features familiar?
is the attack unprovoked? does he run at you or take you by surprise?... (read in full...)
My girl has a bad attitude at times and its hard to bare! Is this reason enough to end it after 2 years ?
Q. Girl friend acts like a man. I find myself being submissive to her for a ;peaceful life. I hate arguements. It weighs me down. She talks rough infront of people both in person and on the phone. She hits when she is not pleased at times too. I am ...
A. 31 March 2007: Hey dude,
okay, imagine this.
This girl is hitting you, acting up in private and infront of company to such a point that your considering hitting back after 2 years. how would it be after 5 or 10 years, could you handle it?
If you love her... (read in full...)
We have phone sex alot as we are long distance, cant help thinking he gets off better to the slut roleplay scenarios than sex with me!
Q. I am 23 years old and my boyfriend is 25. We are in a long distance relationship and we frequently have phone sex. We usually talk about what we would like to do to each other, what we have done, etc. He also initiates a roleplay where I will fab...
A. 31 March 2007: Hey,
what the heck is a cuckold??
anywho, of course. A wise man once wrote " i thought i wanted a good girl who talked dirty words now those dirty words are creul and kinda hurt"
fact is guys like the "idea" of a girl being...not promisc... (read in full...)
I never seem to get it right with boys, they trample all over me and leave, will I ever find the right one!!
Q. hey i really hope you can help. well it may seem just a small problem but i really dont seem to get it right with boys they come and go, when they are forgetting me my feelings and they just trampalling all over me im just so fed up and i really ...
A. 31 March 2007: Hey BBF,
first, learn now there is no such thing as a "Mr Right" there is only a person who you can make something work with that is positive,progressive, and based on trust .
secondly,you like what 14? Mr Right is not a going concern for you ... (read in full...)
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